Many people remain oblivious to cringe because their self-assuredness is artificially reinforced by the social ecosystem around them - where mutual back-patting is common. I’ve heard lousy singers being showered with praise all the time —sometimes even by genuinely talented singers—after a shaky performance-which in turn increases their self assuredness. This feel-good cycle, where real feedback is withheld and positive signals are given, lets these performers continue their "craft" ad nauseum. Over time, these folks even stop seeking an honest opinion from someone who offers a ruthless feedback. This creates a loop where genuine improvement falls by the wayside in favour of continuous insincere reassurance -thus multiplying multifold the kind of social miscalibration described so well in this article.:))) Looking forward to the next part.
Agreed. Polite culture is actually one factor I identified as making this problem salient on LinkedIn (hoping to elaborate in the next post). People generally want to get along with colleagues and work related acquaintances; and conflict avoidance generally overrides most other considerations.
Many people remain oblivious to cringe because their self-assuredness is artificially reinforced by the social ecosystem around them - where mutual back-patting is common. I’ve heard lousy singers being showered with praise all the time —sometimes even by genuinely talented singers—after a shaky performance-which in turn increases their self assuredness. This feel-good cycle, where real feedback is withheld and positive signals are given, lets these performers continue their "craft" ad nauseum. Over time, these folks even stop seeking an honest opinion from someone who offers a ruthless feedback. This creates a loop where genuine improvement falls by the wayside in favour of continuous insincere reassurance -thus multiplying multifold the kind of social miscalibration described so well in this article.:))) Looking forward to the next part.
Agreed. Polite culture is actually one factor I identified as making this problem salient on LinkedIn (hoping to elaborate in the next post). People generally want to get along with colleagues and work related acquaintances; and conflict avoidance generally overrides most other considerations.
I once interviewed someone who spent the whole time referring to himself in the 3rd person. That was definitely cringeworthy.
Trump should be constant Cringe but somehow isn’t.
It’s because he doesn’t give a fuck. He’s almost never cringe
Unfortunately all too true.